How to Become a People Person

by: Antony Mosley
http://professionalsales411.blogspot.com/

Have you ever come across a person who is so naturally friendly that they can becomes friends with almost everyone in a room of strangers in no time? We call such a people person, someone so unbelievably nice and charismatic that they can virtually charm anyone at any time.

It's pretty basic; if you know your social skills and make use of them, you will reach self-empowerment. Self-empowerment is making a general overhaul in your life and turning yourself into a happier and more successful person. Anyone can become a people person. You just have to know how to start.

1. Be genuine.

Hypocrisy will just bring you down. Be genuinely nice and interested in people. If they perceive that you are Mr. Hypocrite with selfish intentions, you might as well say goodbye to self-empowerment.

2. Be the greatest listener you can be.

To earn the love and trust of the people around you, listen to their problems and sympathize with them. Do not just hear them out, listen to them with your heart. Make eye contact when the person talks to you. Listen as if every word matters, and it does. Brownie points when they find out that there is a confidante in you.

3. Laugh out loud.

This does not mean that you need to force yourself to laugh at every joke you hear. This means finding humor in things and not being too serious. A person oozing with an awesome sense of humor attracts crowds and eventually, attracts success.

4. Don't forget yourself.

In the process of fluttering around like a social butterfly, you might forget yourself, sometimes allowing others to push you over. It just makes sense that you'd have to love and value yourself to bring out the best in those around you. If you deem yourself respectable and worthy of affection, people will flock to you and not trample on you.

5. Do random acts of kindness.

This doesn't mean you have to do the Warren Buffet and give everything to charity. Little acts of kindness matter the most, and this can be as simple as giving someone a surprise you-take-care card or helping an elderly person cross the street. When we were kindergarten students, we were taught kindness, and we practiced kindness. Now is the time to revive those good deeds and this time, let them stay for good.

6. Contact your old friends.

It is sad the way some friendships end up in a ‘goodbye’, but thanks to technology, you can do something about it. Relive the good old days by flipping through your yearbook and look for those great people that you want to communicate with again. Adding those old friends to your roster of support peers will surely make you feel good all over.

7. Develop your personality.

Are you grouchy, grumpy and generally morose? Whoa, you can't go through life with those qualities. Get rid of the bad traits and habits that perpetually hamper your growth. And really, who wants a grouchy friend anyway?

8. Be confident.

Be able to stride to the other corner of the room and introduce yourself to people with that winning smile of yours. Be confident, not arrogant.

9. Practice self control.

When angry, don't snap at anyone. Never throw a tantrum. Stay calm and collected. Be adult enough to take control of a situation and transform your anger into something more productive and passive. As soon as people learn that your anger goes to volcanic proportions easily, they will automatically alienate you when they have a problem. Conversely, a person that remains calm under stress wins big points from all onlookers.

10. Keep nurturing your relationships.

Relationships with your family, friends and spouse is so precious that you can't afford to neglect it under any circumstances. Go out and have fun with them. Do things together. Happiness will never fly from your side as long as the people who matter the most are close to you. Using people for self-empowerment means becoming a better and more lovable person. It's a win-win situation: the people know they can turn to you anytime, and you know you can turn to them anytime as well.

So there you have it; ten simple steps to becoming a people person. It's not as difficult as most people think. You just have to know where to start.

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About: Antony Mosley is a technical writer and part time sales professional. Visit his sales training blog at http://professionalsales411.blogspot.com. Feel free to bookmark the blog, and redistribute any article you would like, as long as the About area is included in your publication.